I have only been able to find one of my Farmer family.Hiram Farmer was a steam engineer in 1870. I would guess he worked on ships and Ferrys but, I really don't know. He was married to Emily Field, the sister of my gr-grandmother,Lydia. They had two boys in 1870: Epher was 1 year old and, Albert was 8. Looking farther, I discovered Epher in the household of Thos and Cecelia Field Wells. There is no mention of Emily, Albert or Hiram.
In 1900 Epher Farmer lived on Howard St in New London, Ct. He was an Engineer. In 1910 he is married to Lily, whose parents are from England, and they live in Rhode Island. At this point he is listed as a Screw Engineer. Then, in 1920, he is listed as a state boiler inspector and is the father of one son, Albert R. The last address I have is in Cranston, RI.
So- Hiram and Emily start off in Southold,LI with Epher and Albert and at some point Hiram, Emily and Albert fade way and leave Epher on his own.